{Five Minute Friday | Quiet}

It's Five Minute Friday. That means unplanned, unedited, straight-from-the-heart-to-the-paper writing. Yep, you just write whatever comes out based on a word you're given. If you have five minutes, you should give it a try!  Find out how here.

This week the prompt is {QUIET}.

Ready? GO.

Have you ever been afraid of the quiet? Yeah, me too. After losing a second child, the quiet was the place where my hidden pain threatened to overwhelm me and render me powerless. In the quiet, my heart collapsed under the weight of my secret anger toward God. I was so angry - for a very long time. I avoided the quiet as much as I could. I kept busy. I was always striving and pressing.

But now I crave the quiet. Now, in the quiet moments I am overwhelmed with God's goodness and love. In the quiet, I find Him. And the more I find Him in the quiet moments, the more readily I recognize Him among the noise of my daily routine. The more I find Him in the quiet, the more I realize that striving and pressing are useless. He invites me into the quiet to rest. To be still. To remind me that I am His. 

Yeah, I am His. And in the quiet, He does His best work in me. I love that.

STOP.

{Rehearsal, Not Practice | Bringing Your A-Game to the Platform}

Ah, rehearsal. That time during the week or pre-service when the worship band comes together to. . . well, rehearse. What’s that mean anyway? I know what you must be thinking. Rehearsal is when you show up and just practice the set list for the weekend services. But, let me challenge that notion. Rehearsal is not the time to learn the music; nor is it the time to hear the music for the first time.  What if rehearsal was the place we rehearsed the songs rather than just play the chords? What if rehearsal was the place to bring our already prepared selves and figure out how to make one beautiful whole out of all the moving parts? What if rehearsal was a place where we learned to listen and make space for each other? Yeah, that might be nice. See, rehearsal, like most all things related to worship ministry, isn’t about you or me. I know, that stings a little. Hang with me, because saying that rehearsal is not about us doesn’t let anyone off the hook. It actually hooks us in a big way.

Here’s the thing: What we do before we show up at rehearsal will effect what we do during rehearsal. 

So, here are a few tips on bringing your A-game to the platform for rehearsals. 

1. Fix your eyes and ears and heart and mind. Please don’t miss this one. It’s first on the list for a reason. Spend time with Jesus on your own. Spend time worshiping, reading Scripture, and talking to Him through prayer. Every. Day. Pretty basic, I know. Yet, I can’t tell you how many times over the years I’ve gotten so busy serving and doing that I drifted away from this very important habit. We can make idols out of even the good things in our lives. God gently corrected me by reminding me that it’s quite hard to lead worship if you don’t live worship. Corporate worship - worship that happens we when gather with other believers - should be an extension and overflow of our personal, private worship and devotion to Christ. 

2. Rehearse like you mean it. Even our rehearsal time should be considered an act of worship. Yes, we come together to work on playing skillfully before the Lord (Psalm 33). But, what if we come and engage our hearts and minds by fixing our attention on THE ONE we’re singing for? It’s all about Him — start to finish! It’s a challenge, I know, especially for those midweek rehearsals; but, it’s not an unattainable goal. Worship is not just another gig or a show. Even in striving for excellence we can be intentional about keeping our hearts and motives centered on Him. So, go ahead and worship during rehearsal. Give it a go and see if it doesn't change the way you approach rehearsal time. I bet it does. 

3. Listen to the music. Even the songs you’ve played 100 times. If you’ve played it 100 times, maybe it’s time to try and memorize it. But, I digress. Listening to the music on your own time will develop your musical ear. If you are actively listening to a song,  you will start to pick up on things you might not have heard before. And, take notes! Mark up the chord chart with song order, solos, intros, instrumentals, etc. Something else will happen if you spend time listening to the set list. The songs will become familiar. There’s a difference between a song we’re comfortable with and a song we know way down deep. Challenge yourself to spend 10-15 minutes a day looking at and listening to the music for the week. It makes a difference!

4. Be early. It takes time to get plugged in and tuned up or to find that perfect synth sound. If you need extra time, then come early so you’ll be ready to go at start time.  I’ll just leave that right there. 

5. Practice for rehearsal. See what I did there? Rehearsal time is not the same as practice time. Practice is something you do on your own time as an individual so that you are prepared for rehearsal. Rehearsals are about the big picture, if you will. There are a lot of moving parts and pieces, so getting everyone and everything on the same page is no easy task. However, we set ourselves up for the best chance of that when we show up prepared. Rehearsal time then becomes more productive. Bands learn to . . . well, be a band. One cohesive, unit creating something that no one member could create on his/her own. Have you ever been part of a rehearsal where it seemed like everyone was on a different page, even though everyone had the same chord chart? Yeah, me too. Too often that’s exactly what's happening — every member is doing their own thing rather than working to figure out where they fit in the big picture. So, listen to the music, yes, but also PLAY through the music on your instrument. At home. Learn the part you need to play. When does the electric guitar come in? Where is it just synth pads and drums? And once you’re in rehearsal, listen to the rest of the band too and create space for everyone to contribute the thing they’re bringing to the table. Yeah, do that. 

Worship ministry and worship leadership is an awesome thing to be a part of, truly. But being a part of a team comes with the weight of being a great, blow-your-socks-off team member. We are serving each other well when we steward our time and talent well. And, above all, we bring honor to God who gifted us to do this thing in the first place. Pick up your game. Go above and beyond. If you’re slacking a bit in one of these areas then challenge yourself to grow. Yes. Always, always be growing. And, always keep your heart fixed on the One whose worth far outweighs everything else. 

Keep singing. Keep playing. Lead well.

{Trust after Tragedy}

I am so excited to be sharing as a guest on my brother's blog today. My brother is one of my heroes. His blog is packed with wisdom and great reads! Spend some time and check him out!

You can read my guest post on Aaron's blog (aaron-gibson.com) here.

I hope that you will be encouraged today by knowing there is always hope. Always. 

{A Guest Blog | Purpose Over Preference}

I'm hosting a very special guest blogger today, and I'm SO excited. Y'all this guy is one of my favorites, and that's not just because he's my brother! You can follow Aaron on his blog, aaron-gibson.com or find him on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.  I couldn't be more thrilled to have him as my guest today.

Aaron Gibson | Musician. Teacher. Coach. Mentor. Husband. Coffee Drinker.

This is Aaron. He's a husband, puppy-daddy, musician, and pastor. As a teacher and speaker, he's relatable. He engages the topic at hand with an outside-the-box perspective and real life examples. His dynamic approach and teaching style are unmistakably authentic.

Aaron has been in full-time ministry since 2006 and currently serves on staff at Blythe Island Baptist Church as the Worship & Creative Arts Pastor.  He has a heart for ministry and wants nothing more than to see churches thrive and help people to experience the love of Jesus. He brings a wealth of knowledge to the table in the areas of church planting, team building, vision casting, and church production.  Aaron hopes to serve as a resource for others who are in need of direction and for those who are looking for fresh inspiration.

Aaron and his lovely wife, Tamara, live in South Georgia with their two puppies, Lyla and Sadie.

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{Purpose over Preference | Shifting Perspectives for Leading Worship} by Aaron Gibson

Have you ever stepped off the stage after leading what you thought was going to be an incredible set and felt like you were the only one who liked it? Or put a lot of energy and effort into selecting songs and working on flawless transitions to leave the service feeling like it didn’t matter anyway? What about anger? Have you ever started to get frustrated or angry with the congregation you’re trying to lead because they just don’t seem to be getting it? I believe we've all been there before. We've all wanted to lead an engaging life changing worship set only to be left feeling like we were the only ones worshipping.

That is a common problem facing worship leaders, but what do you do with that? How can you leave the stage knowing you've done everything you can to lead and not be a distraction? Is there anything that can be done to walk away with a clear conscious? I believe so. Through a challenge-laden season of my life, God taught me there are few things we can do, while on stage, to avoid having this tsunami of guilt destroy our confidence in our calling. But, most of what we need to do has to happen in the preparation.

I can remember coming home some nights, sitting on the floor with my head in my hands and weeping. Feeling defeated. Feeling like everything I was trying to do was a waste. I grew bitter. As a worship pastor, I became bitter and angry toward the people I was trying to lead. I remember saying things like, "There shouldn't be this much resistance", "Why don't they just get it", "Am I even doing the right thing".  The more bitter I became, the more I complained about the people.  

During this season, my wife and I took a trip to New York. I can't remember why exaclty, but I'm sure I was probably eating pizza and bagels for most of the trip. I can remember having really negative thoughts about my congregation back home.  While I was mid-thought, Moses came to my mind and the many conversations and difficulties he had with the Israelites and the many intercessions I read about.  Then I felt God speak so clearly to me it was almost audible. I simply heard, "Aaron, I called you to lead them to where they need to be, not complain about where they are."  That was my Job moment with God. Immediately my mind shifted directions. I knew God was taking our church somewhere special, and up until that moment, my heart had never broken for our people that deeply.  Up until that moment my heart hadn't been broken for my purpose as a worship pastor. To help people experience the greatness and victory of Jesus through worship. That is our purpose as worship leaders. Above all. Our pupose is to help people see and experience Him.

To accomplish that we have to Pursue Purpose over Preference. When we pursue fulfilling our purpose more so than we try to satisfy our preference, then when we'll see God use us the greatest. I believe we see from the beginning of time that man's preference has kept him from God's ultimate purpose for him. In my opinion, there are 3 key areas we need to discipline ourselves in the preparation process to lead people to the worship experience we all desire.

     1. Pursue Obedience over Opinion

This may require some extensive conversations with your worship pastor or senior pastor, but this is where it all begins. God has called each every church to be and to reach someone specific.  Who is it God has called your church to reach. We have to be obedient to that calling, not opinions of who we should be as a church. Sure, we may have a specific skill set or certain abilities.  Maybe you're really good at pulling off that country twang in a song or nailing some of those Hillsong guitar licks. We have to come to a place where we realize God's plan isn't dependent upon our qualifications. Paul is a great example of this. Everything about Paul would have led us to believe God was going to send him to the Jewish people to preach the Gospel. He knew the culture and the religion better than anyone. Paul had to change up his style a bit to reach the Gentiles. But he did it. He looked past his qualifications, past his opinion and he pursued obedience.

If we're going to lead people, we have to know who we are leading.

     2.  Pursue Relevance over Preference

After we know who God has called us to reach, we have to be intentional about reaching them. Paul says it like this in 1 Corinthians 9:19-23.

19Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible. 20To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law, I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as to win those under the law. 21To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God’s law but am under Christ’s law), so as to win those not having the law. 22To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some. 23I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I may share in its blessings.

It's hard to do this one. It's hard to select songs based off of what people need versus what we like/want to play. I don't necessarily think there's an, "I don't care what you need" mentality. It's just not something on the forefront of our minds.  One thing that helped me with this is prayer. Not a prayer for wisdom, but prayer for the people. Prayer for them to experience the freedom and victory that worship offers. The more I prayed for the congregation, the more my heart broke for them. The more my heart broke for them the more natural it came for me to select songs that would lead them to where they needed to be.

Worship does an incredible thing in our life. Worship brings victory over life's difficulty. Worship positions us right in the middle of a collision where we are reaching for God and He is reaching for us. We get to lead people to that place. We can't make them worship, but we can remove distractions by selecting worship songs that are relatable to them and their life. Perhaps we should get past the words modern, traditional, or contemporary and simply try to relate to who God has called us to reach.

     3.  Pursue Engagement over Expectation    

I love soda. I love soda more than you do. Diet Dr. Pepper to be specific. I could drink it all day long. I would wake up in the morning to a bowl of Lucky Charms and Diet Dr. Pepper. Why? Because it's delicious. But about 1 1/2 to 2 years ago, I read that all the additives in a soda will certainly kill! But only after losing all of your fingers and toes. Well, maybe it wasn't that extreme, but I thought it'd be best to give it up. After about 6 months of being soda free, I thought I'd reward myself because I had been so good. Just a sip won't hurt. Besides...It's sooo good! Well, something happened in those 6 months.  My taste had changed. What I remembered to be so good, wasn't quite as good anymore. I went in with the expectation of complete satisfaction but left feeling disappointed. I believe we have the same type of expectation when it comes to the congregation we're leading.

We've all probably had or seen that worship experience that was just incredible. It sticks out in our minds and we strive for that type of experience again and again. Which is great, but often we are not having that same experience because we are expecting the congregation to come in ready to worship. We are ready, sure! But we have to remember, we've been there a couple of hours already. We've been playing the music and praying for the service. We were preparing with the intention for God to move in a big way. But what we forget is the husband and wife may have just had an argument in the car on the way to church.  They're feeling frustrated because they're running late and this time, they actually found both shoes, but only one kid. Maybe they had a rough week at work. Maybe they got fired. Maybe they got bad news from the test results. Whatever the case, we cannot expect them to come in ready to worship. We have to show them there is victory in life and over their difficulties in and during worship. We have to help them focus their hearts' affection and minds' attention on a God whose love for them is not based on their circumstances.  

Draw them in. Invite them in. Lead them to where they need to be.

I gauge the effectiveness of our worship gatherings a little differently now. Instead of asking, did they worship? How did they respond? I simply ask, was I obedient? Was I relevant? Did I try to engage the congregation into worship? God has me here for a purpose, did I pursue that purpose?

 I simply cannot make people worship. I can only lead them to a place of worship. If we pursue the purpose God has called us to, He is faithful. We will see the worship experience and life change we desire. I can honestly say that because it's His desire. Doesn't it just make sense to jump on board with where He's already going?

{Improve Your Blog in One Simple Step}

Y'all might not know it, but blogging is one of my favorite things to do! My first post, nearly five years ago, was probably pretty lame. I know my blog design was pretty lame although it served its purpose well. But over time, the purpose evolved. Hopefully, it's all gotten a bit better. Even still, I had a hard time finding my groove - if you know what I mean. What I'm learning is that consistency is key, and you have to work at being consistent. How do you do that? I'm so glad you asked! Here's what has been working for me:

First things first! Get organized. Pick out a notebook or an app and start using it! Evernote is a great app for organizing your ideas, and any kind of notebook will do - as long as it has a sturdy cover and plenty of blank pages. Keeping all your ideas and inspiration in one place makes it much easier when you're wondering what in the world to write about next.

Once you have all your stuff in one place, you're one step away to a better blog! Exciting, isn't it!? So, what's one easy way to improve your blog?

Get a schedule. Yes, make a plan and work the plan. Now, before you throw up a red flag and claim that working from a writing schedule squelches creativity, hear me out. Having a writing schedule brings a sense of accountability to the table. Creating space to write will foster creativity and hone writing skills. I use a simple monthly calendar and schedule blog posts one month in advance. You can be as detailed as you would like. I make note of the category and/or title on the date the post will go live. I schedule writing time accordingly. Just get something on paper!

January was the first month I consistently put these things in practice. I set a goal for my blog and was able to hold myself accountable because I was organized and worked from a schedule. And, I did it!! Woo-hoo! If I can do it, you can too! So, because I love calendars and freebies, you can download a copy of a blank monthly blog planning calendar! Take a look!

Happy blog planning!